Choose your lube like you choose your face cream!
Declining oestrogen levels during menopause can lead to vaginal dryness and discomfort, which can negatively impact sexual activity, quality of life and put strain on intimate relationships.
To combat these symptoms, many menopausal women use vaginal lubricants. Lubricants are products designed to reduce friction and enhance pleasure during sexual activity. They can be especially helpful for women experiencing vaginal dryness, as they help to mimic the body’s natural lubrication and make sex (either partnered or solo) more comfortable.
There are several types of lubricants available, including water-based, oil-based, and silicone-based. It is important for menopausal women to choose a lubricant that is safe for use with their personal hygiene and sexual health products, such as condoms and sex toys. Water-based lubricants are a good choice for many women, as they are safe for use with all types of condoms and are easy to clean up. They also feel very slippery, but don’t last as long as oil- and silicone-based lubricants. You can mix types, for example, use oil-based and add in water-based for extra slip!
It is also important to consider any medical conditions or allergies when choosing a lubricant. Check the ingredients list and avoid glycerin, propylene glycol, perfumes and parabens, which can upset the delicate pH balance of the vagina and cause irritation.
In addition to choosing a safe and effective lubricant, menopausal women should also consider other strategies to manage symptoms of vaginal dryness. These may include practicing simplified hygiene (avoid soaps and chemicals), using a vaginal moisturiser, vaginal oestrogen and engaging in regular sexual activity to stimulate healthy tissues and natural lubrication.
We recommend YES brand lube options (they also make a great moisturiser). YES products are certified organic and plant based and are made in Australia.
Another favourite is Olive and Bee, another Australian brand (developed by a physiotherapist) with natural ingredients (olive oil and beeswax). This intimate cream acts as a moisturiser and doubles up as a lubricant.
Finally, don’t hold back – reach for the lube early and often.
PS. Many midlife men will experience erectile dysfunction and too much lubricant can be problematic. There are effective medical treatments available so make sure you know the options.
